Kindness from Strangers

In the darkest of times we often look close to hand for kindness and support and many of us are lucky enough to have a strong, dependable network to hold us up. This anchor steadies us and pins us firmly in the here and now.

But often the most warmth and buoyancy comes from unexpected quarters; The Kindness of Strangers. Or people who have no vested interest in helping to sooth or support. This kindness is beautifully free of obligation and expectations. The judgement it may or may not carry is lighter for not being so interwoven with previous episodes.

I think of this kindness like the painkiller after the op! Your friends and family painfully, methodically stitch you back together, working around old scars, fussing and scolding. The kindness that comes left field from those unconnected is a balm or injection of feel good that lets you rest more peacefully, feel more hopeful and heal without constant fear of reopening those wounds.

This is my ode to those strangers who become friends by reaching out. You, my new friends, are the very best of this world. I have been surprised and uplifted by so much positivity and support.

Thank you for keeping it kind!

Sending it back into the world threefold for you all!

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