Remarkable Resilience






Resilience 

Noun: the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.


Etymology: Latin resilient-, resiliens, present participle of resilire to jump back, recoil, from re- + salire to leap


Resilience is NOT:


  • standing immovable in the face of trauma or tragedy
  • A stiff upper lip
  • A lack of emotional expression
  • Never failing
  • Constant positivity
  • A competition


Resilience is about having the flexibility and resourcefulness to find a way to get up again after a knock back. 


Resilience is feeling beaten but giving it one more shot. 


Resilience is crying, saying “this is hard” and then reaching out for help to get through it. 


Resilience is learning from each situation so that you can come back faster and stronger every time. 


There has been so much demonstrable resilience in the last two years. Families finding ways to connect despite being apart. People grieving and yet still thinking of the safety of others. So many continuing in their jobs or studies despite very justified fears and concerns. 


The fact that people have had moments of despair and anguish does not mean they lack resilience. Quite the opposite. It shows the depth to which they have plunged and the enormous elasticity required to bounce back. It is a testament to the incredible resilience of so many that we still have energy and emotion for love, anger, sadness and empathy. 


So, when you teach about resilience, look at the faces of those around you and give them, and yourself, credit for embodying the word. We have adapted and evolved. This, in itself, is a remarkable achievement. If no other “progress” is made or measured this year then please, do NOT under estimate everyone’s continuing display of Remarkable Resilience. 


Happy Seasons Greetings to all. 


Much love xxx

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  1. Unknown24 December 2021 at 08:46

    Thank you for this blog. I read it when you first posted it 2 hours ago! I, too, was awake, unable to sleep. A thousand and one thoughts in my head. I've just read it again. Just what I needed to be reminded of. Thank you.

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